Francis Tombu, Intern
I’m Francis Tombu, a third year counselling psychology student (MA) at Simon Fraser University. I have extensive professional experience working with diverse communities and families through non-profit organizations. My approach to therapy is, in part, based on the insights of attachment theory, interpersonal neurobiology, and existential philosophy. I provide trauma-informed, strengths-based and inclusive care in order to facilitate a safe, comprehensive and compassionate exploration of clients’ experiences. I believe that it is within the context of relationship to others that we uncover ultimate meaning – for better or worse. When we experience security with others, we learn to become regulated, safe and whole. We are born with the expectation of attuned others bred into our very DNA. As relationship goes, so goes the brain in structure and process, and so, too, go the thoughts, feelings and interactions that makeup our daily lives. These, in turn, impact how we function within relationships.
My work with clients has been a process of becoming a secure other with whom to attune in order provide the context that enables you to do the hard, good work of getting to know yourself with more compassion. This self-awareness translates into real life change because when we’re more aware of ourselves, we are better able to identify what it is in our lives that does or does not work for us. We’re better equipped to take action in life when we view ourselves realistically, with compassion and have a sense of meaning which guides us – from big picture, bucket list goals, to the everyday exchanges and practices that shape our reality. I bring not only my clinical training and research background, but have lived experience in many of my areas of interest, so I know that change for the better is more than merely possible. I genuinely trust that each one of us has the capacity for meaningful change and growth.
Areas of Interest:
Developmental Trauma and Neglect
Intergenerational Trauma
Histories of Child Sexual Abuse and Exploitation
Post-Traumatic Growth
Adult children of Addicts
Marriage and other Long-Term Romantic Relationships
Ethical Non-Monogamy
Kink and Sex